August 26

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 26: “It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.” ― Alan Cohen

I don’t necessarily agree that it takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure. It may take a small amount.

To me, embracing the new is the only option we truly have anyway. So my definition is to continue to live with what is familiar and seemingly secure. There is no such thing, anyway.

What we know is already over and done. There is nowhere else to go except in the direction of all forward movement; into the unknown.

We may like to pat ourselves on the back and spoon feed the ego with the notion that this is tremendously courageous, but I don’t need the ego boost. It is a deadly intoxicant for me.

And whatever we have already learned is old and stale, as far as I can see. So, why would we want to keep repeating that?

Because we like to wallow in drama and crazy is the only answer I can come up with. And, also, I am afraid, because we are tremendously chicken-shit and lazy. That is really what most of these issues come down to. I am too damned lazy to shift into another way of doing things or thinking or behaving. I want someone else to do it for me. Oh!

Yeah, that is the way with addicts! We are incredibly lazy and entitled and would rather sit in our shit than work the steps that will alleviate the cramped condition our spine is in from sitting in our shit. Hahaha!

Then we want some kind of bonus for doing something that only preserves our own skin! We save our ass and wait for the Universe to applaud. Geez! Really???

Yeah…that is the thing with us. We get all the benefit and want credit besides…terrible, aren’t we? Well, I think it is a great thing to see about myself that I am self-serving, selfish and so on…and totally entitled to boot! Yikes! So, I will not need to take a bow for working the steps, nor will I give applause to those who do. The reward is intrinsic, not extrinsic.

And we are the ones who feel better. No one else really gives a crap, nor should they.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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