July 19

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 19: “It is the length of the journey that ripens the joy of the outcome.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

I used to hitchhike around…went to 48 U.S. states and spent time overseas travelling through Europe and into India. India, in those days, was great fun, because everyone hitched! And they were so happy to meet a fellow traveler.

The journey was always the adventure. I had developed the ability to not have a destination. I just stuck out my thumb and met people and went where they were going. Sometimes we travelled across town or across the country. It was a great adventure!

Somewhere since that time I have retained the ability to have adventure days, where an entire day just unfolds as it will. Not like I once was, I plan and map out the routes more frequently. Life is always more fun when I just let the journey unfold.

Even when I have an agenda or a plan, sometimes (always!) life will impose itself into my route. Sometimes it is traffic that slows me down, or a detour or something that catches my eye and I veer off the course set.

The more I do this stuff, the more I strive for spontaneity and freedom from the rigid adherence we can get to “the plan.” My husband was great at this. I must work toward that.

The balance in between is the best place to shoot for. “Make plans and leave the outcome to God,” is what my first sponsor used to say all the time. She was fun! Sometimes our spontaneous road trips were some of the best ever had.

I grew up in AA with old-timers who travelled to meetings. We would all pile into the car, newcomers sat in the back; and off we went for hours to get to a meeting in another city, sometimes 100 miles or more away. I never knew where we would be going in advance. They always just said to be ready to go at 5:30 or whenever, and off we would go!

The meetings in the car on the way to the meeting were the best! Just like early H+I, and sometimes still today. We drive for hours to get to the prison or jail and have wonderful adventures on the way. When we get to the place, we have had a nice meal together and laughed at each other and life. We talk about our lives and share E.S.+H. on the trip. The destination is really secondary to the travel.

The longest drives for me are those I have to take alone. I love to drive and can and will do it at the drop of a hat. But, I really love road trips with a couple of the folks who are great co-pilots. They know who they are. We have legendary adventures in travel! And the journey is worthy of the time it takes. And the destination is richer for having made the journey. I love it!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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