July 10

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 10: “Impatience is racing at misery full speed.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich

We become so unhappy when we are impatient. It creates a great deal of stress and tension. And serves NO purpose whatsoever.

When we recognize that impatience is the root of many of our troubles, it is easier to sit with it and ask ourselves what we think we are not getting. This can be the practice of a more understanding and peaceful relationship with ourselves and our world.

Impatience is ugly and unpleasant to see in ourselves and in others. When I recognize that I am impatient with anything, I remember how ugly it looks when others are rude and impatient in traffic or in line for something. I don’t like it! Do you?

Most of us will agree that it is not an attractive part of anyone’s personality. Therefore, we can all be mindful to become more practiced at sitting with our impatience and allowing it to inform us that we are disturbed about something.

Usually ego and fear. These are the root of all of our character defects. If we were to ask that only ego and fear be removed, none of the character defects we list would be present. It requires these two ugly attributes to manifest defects.

We become impatient when we are afraid. We are demanding and greedy. We practice all 7 of the deadly sins that are spoken of in Step 7 in the 12×12.

Pride, we believe we are special or more important than others.

Anger, we become angry when impatience rears its ugly head…often yelling or flipping people off…sad.

Greed, we are demanding and greedy for what we want…NOW!

Gluttony, and we want more than our share, or are not willing to wait for it to come.

Lust, we lust after whatever it is we want.

Envy, we begin to dislike and envy those who have what we think we want.

Sloth, we are entitled and lazy, not willing to work to earn it all in the time it takes.

How I was taught to remember the 7 deadly sins is seen if you read down the list…PAGGLES. I love that. I teach it to newcomers in groups all the time. It works. Today, I hope to avoid practicing any of these by practicing mindful patience. Let’s see how we all do!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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