June 25

HUMILITY MONTH: DAY 25: “Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others.” — Gautama Buddha

Whatever I focus on will grow. In all areas of life, this is the case. I worked through the problems with another person yesterday, after writing that piece. I want to do some of these things publicly, because it is a great process for me.

What I spent the rest of my day doing was to speak and write of the great aspects of this person’s life and who I know that person to be. It was an exercise I first learned from Dr. Paul O. who wrote the piece in the BB on Acceptance. He and his wife taught me a great deal over the years about relationships and the kinds of work we need to do around here to maintain them.

I am not good at this, because I was never taught how to have relationships that nurtured and fed the participants. None of us, in my experience thus far, have these skills. When we believe we are doing those things, we are often just being co-dependent and creating great resentments between ourselves and those others we state we “love.”

This is a great quote, which is another mantra I use as much as I can. There are enormous amounts of growth that I will always have in front of me. I can only say that there is also an enormous amount of growth behind me. We are all here working toward the things we came here to do and become. Life is not a stagnant process. There is only movement and growth or recapitulation into what WAS. There is no standing still. There is no “there” there.

This fluidity is like water. Although it may appear calm, it is constantly and forever shifting. Either being absorbed in the earth or into the air, manifesting again and again as steam or rain or flowing into a saline experience. Continuous development and growth and change. Moving and moving and moving and shifting. I love that!

One of the very first philosophers based his entire form of belief on the consistency and movement of water, believing that we could never step into the same river twice. Its movement mirrored ours, and therefore, we and the river were never going to be the same from one moment for the rest of time.

So, whomever or whatever we encounter are in their (or its) own experience. There will always be something that we can love or hate about it. Focusing on what is lovely and good is always the challenge. Our feelings are driven by this dynamic and what we believe.

When we are able to keep our minds on that plain, we will be happier and love life more often. It is our decision to do this that will allow us to remain in that space or another, it is all up to us.

Today is a good day so far, I will work to keep it in that light. See ya!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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