June 19

HUMILITY MONTH: DAY 19: “A warrior accepts the challenges of life in true humility. No matter what his destiny may be, it can never be a cause for discontent, but a living challenge which it is his privilege to surmount.” ― Théun Mares

I am not sure about being a warrior, although that is the literal translation of my name (Kelly). While I can personally see this as being appropriate in many ways, I mean in the sense of this quote.

However, I DO LOVE this quote. No matter what may come into my life, I have the ability to see how it is an opportunity for me to push through and grow from the experience. I love that about myself. I always have. It is a sense of perseverance and, as the quote says, a living challenge.

And, truth be told, I love that I can see my life as being privileged to have contained so many of those challenges.

While I considered myself to have been victimized in many ways, the ability to turn that around that I get from these steps is absolutely a privilege.

What then, do I get from that? Well, we look at others and believe that they have all the gifts, whether it is money, property or prestige, we believe they are winning this thing called life; while we are stuck in that story of bad breaks and missed opportunities.

We are waiting for our ship to come in or our turn at bat. We want the same winning streak we see others getting. And, the funny part is, we will kick back and drink until that happens. Hahaha! Some of us actually had money, property or prestige and squandered it, because it was not the right flavor, or we just did not care for it well when we had it. Then we cry because we lost what we did not know we wanted.

We look around the world and believe that what others have is superior to what we have. We do not understand the wealth that we possess in the things and the moments that are right in front of us. These are the gifts, the challenges, the moments, the privilege.

I am watching some folks I have been close to and am not at this time doing those things they swear they do not do. It is interesting. Their confusion and lost integrity  are sad, but I get it. They are hoping that if they continue doing what they have always done, the results will be different. I understand, but I am grateful to have found that this is not the road I want to take.

I may not always identify myself as the warrior I really know that I am, deep down. But I am grateful for the fact that I have never shied away from the truth, never shied away from the challenge to become a better person, never shied away from the spotlight that illuminates my defects and never shied away from the process of working through to the core of what IS and what IS NOT.

And while I may not possess true humility, I certainly do accept these things…eventually…hahaha! I am quite often raising my fist to the sky and asking…”Are you sure?” But that is always the way I begin to accept things.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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