April 20

HONESTY MONTH: DAY 20: “I know that embarking on nonviolence shall be running what might be termed a mad risk. But the victories of truth have never been won without risk.” –M. Gandhi

In my ongoing work with TRUTH today, I am writing about Satya, the Vedic principle of nonflying. I really love this quote, because it also embraces the first principle (Yama) of Ahimsa, or nonviolence or non-harming.

Of course, this makes sense with a quote from Gandhi. He was guided by his cultural and spiritual heritage, even in the face of persecution and abuse by the British, whom he protested in a non-violent manner throughout his life.

To do this without war was such a strange and unknown concept in that day and time. It was replicated by Dr. M.L. King a few decades later and has been part of the culture here since that time. What does come out is the brutality that others are willing to perpetrate to stop peaceful protest from happening.

I am in awe of the pioneers who taught me that truth does not need to use guns, or fight, or kill others in order to be brought out into the world.

There was a lot of violence in my life growing up, some of it came with the people with whom I grew up, and then I sought it because that was my default setting. I remember falling in love with the hippies when I was 13 years old. Their message(s) of peace and love and the marches I participated in, along with the music and other aspects of the 1960s were a calling to me that tugged at my heart.

I felt at home with the idea that we could all just love each other and not fight any more over money, property and prestige. It was one of the times when I can see myself as being completely naïve and vulnerable in my desire to experience peace.

There are other forces in the world that have been part of that experience. Violence came into my life again and again. Some by my inability to steer my life differently, some by others who intervened on my life in awful ways. Today I see the beauty and perfection of it all. I did not always feel that way.

Healing is an amazing grace. I can sit with tremendous uproar and remain at peace. I can own my truth and tell it quietly or shout it out. I do not have to adapt it or make it pretty for others.

The violence of it all is gone now. I no longer need to react to that fear and that energy. Your fear and violence can not touch this peace inside me.

I love this stuff! I love the idea of becoming nonviolent with all that has gone on. I love that I no longer beat myself half to death to be who you need me to be. I no longer have to dance to your music, no matter if I want to or not. Just as Gandhi was able to continue his nonviolence, no matter how brutal others treated him, I can do the same, in my own small way. Together, we may start a march of healing. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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