February 25

HOPE MONTH: DAY 25: “Insight into change teaches us hope. Because change is built into the nature of things, nothing is inherently fixed, not even our own identity. No matter how bad the situation, anything is possible. We can do whatever we want to do, create whatever world we want to live in, and become whatever we want to be.” — Thanissaro Bhikkhu

Life is all one thing, change. Shifting energy, moving constantly, reforming and reshaping and building and falling apart, constant, ongoing.

So, a new way of seeing hope is that when something is deemed good or desirable, it will change. When something is seen as bad or undesirable, it, too will change.

Some of us will find peace in that idea and some will resist it. Does not matter. The truth is, for me, a calming and peaceful place to rest. When I understand the nature of something, I find that I can accept that and be still.

Perhaps it is a recovery thing, and perhaps it comes with advancing age. But I do understand that there is a force so much greater than me (more than one, actually) that I no longer fight against it. I don’t need to orchestrate the movement of the sun or the planets. I see no real conversation in talking about weather and am quite bored by those who complain no matter what it is doing. I find that, as I move more deeply into this form of acceptance, all else is falling away.

Those things that can appear to be big deals seldom are any longer. My acceptance of what others do or do not do is greater. Of course, you must understand that some of the most powerful teachers are, today, present in my life to challenge these assertions.

We get many opportunities to experience our own growth or lack thereof. I love that and welcome it when I feel confident and comfortable in my spiritual self.

Other times, I must have hope that I will grow past my need to please others or to be a certain person to another. It is uncomfortable and always upsets the dynamic of our interaction. My history and broken understanding of human relationships is still present. It comes into play in places where it is most inconvenient and unwelcome. Therefore, I know I am not done here.

So, I do what I can and sit with the hope that as I need it, opportunity will come to grow more deeply into the person I am here to be. While this can be somewhat frightening on one hand, thank goodness I know; “this too, shall pass.”

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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