January 3

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 3: “If something bad happened just do these 3 things. First inhale, second exhale, and third accept that it happened.” ― Kenneth de Guzman
Life is like THAT. We can only sit with what IS. Not what we want, not what we wished for or worked for or thought we had coming.
But what IS. This, I believe, is the greatest concept we are given. Thank God it is the very first spiritual principle we come into contact with. This, I believe, is what separates the practicing members of recovery groups and those who are just biding their time till their next drink or pill.
Some folks come around, but most do not. They bide their time, getting more and more angry and resentful at life and not getting what they wanted or having something taken from them. We do this without being aware. I have watched it happen, over and over again, to myself and others. Then it is time to get out the book and the paper and the pens.
When we know this process is going to work, even on THIS thing, we are going to get to work. There is no progress without the work. Yesterday’s work does not keep us here today. We have to do today’s work also.
This is a progressive deal. THAT has been proven by those who stick around here, doing the work for 30 or 40 years and THEN relapse. It happens far too often. And we somehow come to believe we are exempt from this damned disease. We are NOT.
Accept that whatever you don’t like about life is none of your business. You are not here to run the damn show. If you could, would you be sitting where you are right now? I don’t think so. Although, if you took a poll in a recovery meeting, most present would believe they were entitled to be in charge of a lot of stuff. I certainly have felt that way at times.
However, what Acceptance (with a capital A) gives me is the truth. I am not organized enough…and I am the most organized person I know!…to handle the job. Too many details, even for me. So, it is the work of a Power I don’t possess.
This is great stuff. So simple, most of us don’t get it. The world at large does not know how to lay down the boxing gloves they wear to do battle with life every day and just Accept that it is not their job to control. I am eternally grateful that this information has finally permeated my brain and I can live in peace. I like it like that.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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