November 9

GRATITUDE MONTH: DAY 9: “The greatest wisdom is in simplicity. Love, respect, tolerance, sharing, gratitude, forgiveness. It’s not complex or elaborate. The real knowledge is free. It’s encoded in your DNA. All you need is within you. Great teachers have said that from the beginning. Find your heart, and you will find your way.” ― Carlos Barrios, Mayan elder and Ajq’ij of the Eagle Clan

Heart is the keeper of our path. I was taught this early on in my recovery. Thank goodness for that teaching. When people around the meetings want to tell others what to do; or when some of us who are practiced at being victims want others to tell us what to do; this teaching has served me well.

I do NOT know your journey. It is yours, and the Universe encoded it in your heart, in your blood, in your DNA. It is not known to me.

Advice is plentiful in recovery meetings. And it is absolutely useless. We can learn from each other’s experience, strength and hope. But our decisions are ours to make. The lessons are ours to learn. The things we choose are all part of our journey.

I take such offense when there is all this hoopla about what people “think” of what others are doing. And, I was brow-beaten to recognize that whenever I discuss ANYONE not party to the conversation, it is gossip. And that is evil. It is undermining of that person and all involved in the conversation. There is no place for it where we are gathered together to heal.

How that looks for anyone else is none of my business. What you may think you know about my life is none of my business either. Please keep it to yourself. It serves us all much better when we focus our time and attention on what is right in our faces today.

If we are bothered horribly by something going on with someone else, perhaps we can find that mirror to see if we are doing it too. Quite often, that is the case.

I am SO grateful for the people who taught me to mind my own business, work my own program and take my own inventories. As most of you know, I am quite fond of Inventory process and do it all the time. I don’t have time for yours.

Doing mine has created a magnificent life where I get to live and be free of the crap. Go do your own and leave the rest of us off the hook!

The greatest wisdom IS free! And you carry it in your heart, when you learn how to sit still and listen to your heart, you will not need to watch others to see how you are doing. You will be having such a glorious time in your own life that there is no room.

There are no books, no movies, no fb posts or anything that can teach you what you need to know. It is in your heart. Go there and find what you are looking for. I think you are gonna like it!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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