FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 9:
“The only freedom which deserves the name is that of pursuing our own good in our own way, so long as we do not attempt to deprive others of theirs, or impede their efforts to obtain it.” — John Stuart Mill
The dysfunctional relationships in addiction take place for many long after the drugs and alcohol are gone. I believe the steps are the bridges we build to others in order to have healthier relationships with them. That begins with Step 4 and ends with Step 10.
As we do this, we begin to find our own identity apart from those people. We focus on OUR recovery and begin to become less dysfunctional in expectations and demands on others, allowing everyone to have their own lives.
This creates the space for us to come to a spiritual relationship with that Universal Power, because we are able to see that humans do not have the capacity to be that.
While we are codependently involved with others, we are demanding and selfish and scared. Ego runs the day. We manipulate and attempt to control others to feel better and safer in the world around us. It never works and resentment and emotional illness results.
As we grow less dependent on others and their dependence on us lessens, we can become fully self-integrated and whole emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I love that!