July 6

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 6: “When you have done your possible best and nothing seems to work, then work in patience – the invisible key that unlocks possibilities.”― Martin Uzochukwu Ugwu

Or, as my sponsor, and a ton of program-meeting people have said over the years, “It is okay to make plans and then do the footwork, just don’t plan the outcomes.”

Learning to let go of expected outcomes is a very important part of this thing. I cannot predict what is going to happen in my life or anyone else’s life. That is none of my business. I just do today those things that appear on my plate and let the universe drive itself in all ways.

So many angry people around Covid…around the shutdowns and the closures and the whole new paradigm. They do not understand about powerlessness and acceptance and all 12 of these steps. Many of them are so-called recovering addicts.

I remember one time when there were two huge earthquakes that did substantial damage in the desert when I lived there. The aftershocks were fierce. We would be sitting in a meeting when one hit and people would cry and scream and freak out. I told my friend who always sat next to me in that particular morning meeting, “You sure can tell who is thoroughly on-board with Step 3 and who isn’t.” True story. I can always tell who needs to work Step 1, 2, and so on again.
If  you are being victimized about Covid or any part of it, it is time to renew your Surrender steps and then work out the resentments, and so on. That is why this process is never done. If we believe we are victims of life, we are doomed. Anger, rage, frustration, impatience…wah, wah, wah. Life WILL fuck with your plans…so the whole idea here is to align your plans with life, not the other way around. Get it? If not, work the steps, they WILL put you in that place if you are thorough and honest from the very start.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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