June 6

HUMILITY MONTH: DAY 6: “That’s an animal fable about humility. If you survive your mistake, you must learn from it. Accept that you’re fragile, vulnerable, and sometimes stupid. Realize that you’re not immortal and you’ve got to take care of yourself. And then laugh it off and fly away.”― Marc Maron

The last line is the best, isn’t it? Laugh it off and fly away. That is always how I feel after a good inventory and amends for something stupid that I did, that may have harmed someone else.

These steps are extraordinary tools for life. I have taught them for so many years to others that they are often employed by people who are not even aware of where they are most often used. It is possible for these tools to be used in a setting that is not at all a 12-step environment. I have done that in workshops and large gatherings for many years.

And then there is the life-long application that WORKS so well in recovery from any type of addiction. And the important thing here is to remember that you are never going to stop needing them and never going to be “recovered” from addiction. It is a permanent disease.

The BB has a line about  having “recovered…”. I know a lot of people who think they are done with this stuff after a single time through the steps. All that they have done is temporarily arrested their most abhorrent and obvious symptoms. They have not cured their disease. Just like any form of disease, it is always there and relapse is more a certainty than a possibility.

I do not talk about this in meetings, because people in meetings want to argue anything they hear for hours. I do not. It is experience in working with hundreds of thousands addicts over the last 35 years that has proven this to me. And I can only share MY experience, strength, and hope. I am always open to being proven wrong…but so far, has not happened. It would provide me with another example of my own or someone else’s humility.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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