February 6

HOPE MONTH: DAY 6: “Hindsight, I think, is a useless tool. We, each of us, are at a place in our lives because of innumerable circumstances, and we, each of us, have a responsibility (if we do not like where we are) to move along life’s road, to find a better path if this one does not suit, or to walk happily along this one if it is indeed our life’s way. Changing even the bad things that have gone before would fundamentally change who we are, and whether or not that would be a good thing, I believe, it is impossible to predict. So I take my past experiences… and try to regret nothing.― R.A. Salvatore

If I could change one word of this quote, it would be in the last portion…and change “try” to “learn to regret nothing.”

Step 2 will lead us to this place. We get here broken and out of ideas and options if we are truly blessed. Then we find hope in the fact that others have come this way as well and they appear to be happy, joyous, and free. What a great gift!

But the road that brought us here cannot be forgotten or washed away. It has given us all the things we are at this moment. All of them. And none of them happened in vain when we learn to use them as tools with which to build that brighter future we envision in our hopes and dreams.

I am always of the mind that there is no good or bad, right or wrong, hard or easy…everything just IS. It all is the way it is; the only thing that uses those dynamic titles on life is Ego. So, the creator of the problems is the way we see and judge them. Not that we have problems anyway. Just Ego’s view of life creates problems; so it has an ongoing job in solving them. Funny, huh? Not so much, because this is the destroyer of joy and love and peace. But when we know this, we can begin to live differently, if we are constantly willing to view it all differently. But that work is the challenge of walking a new path…where do you walk today?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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