November 22

GRATITUDE MONTH: DAY 22: “Anything you can’t be grateful for becomes your baggage. Anything that you are grateful for becomes your fuel. Habituate gratitude”― Premlatha Rajkumar

I love this quote because it is the most important aspect of a dedicated gratitude practice. If there is something you are NOT grateful for, you are playing victim to that situation or event. I have learned this lesson in some dynamic and very powerful situations in my own life and seen the power of others who are truly heroes to me.

Be grateful for the abuse you have endured, even if you believe it was unwarranted. It is the creation of who you are and the ONLY way to become resilient.

Be grateful to those who have been your abusers. They have gifted you in ways that will become your greatest teachers. But ONLY when you give up the victim story.

Be grateful to those who have treated you with unkindness. They give you the gift of recognizing kindness and being mindful to be more kind. But ONLY when you let go of those stories.

Be grateful for pain that your body has experienced. Every single wound gives you the opportunity to heal and become stronger OR to just succumb to it and become even weaker. Your story, your decision.

Be grateful for pain that teaches you to become empathic or gentles your heart. If not, you will be bitter and resentful. Your choice.

Be grateful for times of heartbreak. Your heart is meant to be broken, so it can remain open and available to deeper connection and love. If you close it back up and wait to be healed, you are going to become miserable and lonely.

Be grateful for those who steal and lie to you. They are teaching you what it feels like when you have done these things to others. A powerful lesson that can only be learned in this fashion.

Be grateful for change. Learn to dance with graceful, bending movements and flow with the course of life. OR risk becoming so rigid and fearful that you are angry, bitter, and disappointed all the time.

Be grateful for every lesson, or risk having to repeat them again and again, in a cycle of sameness that is not the pattern created in this Universe of continuous, ongoing change and recreation. How boring! How dull!

Be grateful for the openings that come, step into them, embrace unknowing and newness and life! Do not risk becoming a re-run of yourself and your life. Grow! Learn! And do it with grace and love.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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