October 6

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 6: “Stop creating and inventing excuses, no matter how reasonable they may sound…they still reduce your worth & value.”― Jaachynma Agu

This is a new quote. I find it to be one of the most pertinent ones for this step…actually for any of the steps.

Addicts are the most creative excuse making folks I know. They are always “busy.” There is no such thing, but they continue to use it for every situation. “How are you?” “Busy.” “How is your dog?” “So busy.” And so on…

I had a sponsor early on who would get up in the morning and drink her coffee and become totally overwhelmed by how “busy” she was. She never got out of the chair! It was all in her mind, but she was SO BUSY!!! Still sitting in the same position, just imagining her list of to-do…sad.

Busy is just another Ego construct that tells the world around us (and us too!) how damned important we are and how much we DO. There is nothing less valuable in knowing how to DO all the time. The most important lesson life gives us is to BE.

And all that talk about BUSY is indeed, a good way to reduce your worth and value. A donkey is kept busy by his master, doing mundane chores, and carrying the master’s load. Isn’t that what most people do when they are all busy?

The funny part is that we get a great deal more done when we just get out of the chair and perform the chores that we are so BUSY thinking about. They get done and there is plenty of time to enjoy life. Truly. It is all a mindset we make up.

We have the ability to learn to get things done when we learn to stop complaining and whining and get on with completing the most important things first. That is why the oldtimers used the saying, “First things first.” When I work on the steps and get that part of my life in order, I don’t have to worry. Everything gets done in God’s time and my life is just the way it is supposed to be. I just have to stop managing it and stop thinking about it all the time. I love that!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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