August 6

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 6: “Plants are more courageous than almost all human beings: an orange tree would rather die than produce lemons, whereas instead of dying the average person would rather be someone they are not.”― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

I think this is almost accurate. Even when they have no fear of dying, the average person is so insecure in themselves that they must pretend to be other than who they are…all the time…throughout the bulk of their lives.

Cultural adoration of those who have sports skills, exemplify a specific definition of beauty or wealth, and many other measures of outer well-being creates this insecurity. Most people feel inferior and less than those who are worshipped by press and fans.

They lie and pretend to be okay within themselves and fall far short. This is the basis of the dishonesty that surrounds  the lives of addicts, both in and out of recovery. The idea that they do not “measure up” is the work of Ego.

So they begin to resent those who seemingly have more than they do. It is the way Ego works. Feeling inadequate and insecure is one of the common characteristics of Ego and addiction. Feeding off the idea that popular acclaim is the key to a good life, addicts are doomed to die unhappy and living a life of lies and deceit and trickery.

Living authentically as an orange tree is the goal. Whether or not we receive public acclaim for that is not the question. Whether or not we become an authentic version of the person we truly were created to be IS. That is what recovery is all about. Owning ourselves is the job of US, not the public. We are not here to achieve fame or wealth. We are here to become more aligned with the spiritual being that we were created to be. All else must fall away, and, as the BB states, “Ego must be smashed.” Ouch! (It really doesn’t hurt all that much if we are  willing to become.I found this piece on FB yesterday and fell in love with it. Hope you enjoy!    

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A Woman’s Soul

Me: Hello God.

God: Hello…

Me: I’m falling apart. Can you put me back together?

God: I’d rather not.

Me: Why?

God: Because you’re not a puzzle.

Me: What about all the pieces of my life that fall to the ground?

God: Leave them there for a while. They fell for a reason. Let them be there for a while and then decide if you need to take any of those pieces back.

Me: You don’t understand! I’m breaking!

God: No, you don’t understand. You’re transcending, evolving.

What you feel are growing pains. You’re getting rid of the things and people in your life that are holding you back. The pieces are not falling down. The pieces are being put in place. Relax. Take a deep breath and let those things you no longer need fall down. Stop clinging to pieces that are no longer for you. Let them fall. Let them go.

Me: Once I start doing that, what will I have left?

God: Only the best pieces of yourself.

Me: I’m afraid to change.

God: I keep telling you: YOU’RE NOT CHANGING! YOU’RE BECOMING!

Me: Becoming, Who?

God: Becoming who I created you to be! A person of light, love, charity, hope, courage, joy, mercy, grace and compassion. I made you for so much more than those shallow pieces you decided to adorn yourself with and that you cling to with so much greed and fear. Let those things fall off you. I love you! Don’t change! Become! Don’t change! Become! Become who I want you to be, who I created. I’m gonna keep telling you this until you remember.

Me: There goes another piece.

God: Yes. Let it be like this.

Me: So… I’m not broken?

God: No, but you’re breaking the darkness, like dawn. It’s a new day. Become!! Become who you really are!!”

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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