July 24

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 24: “If you want good success, you have to sow the seeds of good thoughts and deeds, and be patient.”― Martin Uzochukwu Ugwu

Yeah, that is the problem for most addicts…waiting for results. We have no skill at this, and it is trouble for most of us.

Doing the right things and expecting nothing in return is the best way to live. When I give something to someone or do a kindness, it is often with the motive to either look good in the other person’s eyes or to get something in return at some point. I have to work to do that same act with no expectation of a return kindness or even acknowledgment. If I can do it without anyone knowing it was me, all the better.

I have to know that the results will be that I will feel better about myself and my life than I did when all I did was take, take, take. To the point where stealing was often my practice. I stole so many times, and it wasn’t  always the kind of stealing that is most obvious. I stole time and energy and good wishes and many other things because I was inconsiderate, selfish, self-motivated, and just a shit kind of person. I thought nothing of others or their time and lives. I want to erase that as best I can, so there is a great deal of giving back, “just because.” For no purpose, for no reason, for no gain or attention if I can do it that way.

I don’t know about success, but I want to feel better about my life than I used to. It sucked being such a drain on everyone and everything around me. There was no pleasure in what I took or stole from others, and I hated me a lot. Now I don’t. That is reward enough, if you ask me. Way more than I ever thought I would become. Success? I think so, but not the way most people see it.

I can truly rejoice with others and their good fortune today without being petty or jealous. That is another wonderful outcome from wanting to become a better person. In order to become one, I had to learn to ACT like one. Then I began to THINK like one. As usual, the action changes the thinking, not the other way around. I love this stuff!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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