February 12

HOPE MONTH: DAY 12: “Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together.”― Marylin Monroe

Every good thing in my life is past. All of it. Today, there is only what is here today. All of it is wonderful. But by next year, it may all be gone also.

Time takes care of this process. Everything leaves or changes. Spaciousness is the requirement of a happy life. We cannot resist the process of life. When we do, it becomes ridiculous and painful. This includes those who fight the process of growing older.

Don’t try to stop what is Universal energy. It will harm you in the process of your resistance. There is no pain in life, except that of resistance to what IS. Only in that place where we stand firm in our NO does pain exist. This is one of the most ancient spiritual principals. And yet, Ego tells us that we can fight the Universe and win.

Have you ever tried to stop a young toddler from learning to walk or talk? Why would you? We all understand the process of growth and development babies need to pass through on their way to becoming independent of us. However, so many parents fight the independence of their children. It is so much better to teach and support them to make choices that THEY are going to pay the price for…AND THEN LET THEM PAY ALL THEIR OWN PRICES. This is the basis of family dysfunction. Taking responsibility for the actions of others and paying their prices. It is rampant in our culture. It is called Codependency. No recovery in that stuff for sure.

We have to move on in this world. Allow our learning and development to go according to the Will of the Universal Power. We may think (Ego!) that we have some say and control over that, but we don’t. It is just as much fun as standing in the face of a hurricane and yelling “Stop!” You may try it, but it won’t be productive or fun.

And who wants to believe that all the good you are ever going to receive is already here? Not me. I am excited every day to see what new things are going to crop up on my daily gratitude letter to the Universe. And every day, there is something that did not exist the day before. Sometimes a really big list that did not exist the day before. Sometimes just a learning. I never, ever want to stand in the face of life and say “No thanks. I have all I need.” How the hell would I know?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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