January 26

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 26: “Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are.”― Ellen DeGeneres

I like this concept. It is true. I have known beautiful men and women who were so comfortable with their own beings that they did not need to intervene on themselves with cosmetics, procedures, salons, or any other type of “beautification.” They inspire me. I strive to become that.

My most beautiful friend does not style her hair, or get anything other than a semi-annual haircut. She does not wear any makeup and has the most beautiful skin I have ever seen. She wears a very inexpensive lotion and washes with a soap product…no cosmetics. She stopped all that in the 1960s when we began to question animal testing and torture for beautification of women. I love that!

And she is so completely against any of the rest of it that she has never had any kind of practice or procedure done…doesn’t need to.

Her health is amazing, because she eats fresh fruits and vegetables, little or no meat, all organic and grown sustainably. She hikes miles each week and, at 68, is getting ready to do the Camino in Spain this summer. (My bucket wish list…maybe me too…we shall see.) I am so envious of her dedication to the life she enjoys.

I am ridding myself of makeup except on specific occasions. I am blessed because I have never used anything other than mascara anyway. I am allergic to cosmetics and creams, so have never been able to use them. I wash my face with glycerin soap and use only coconut oil each week. Because of all the sun I have been in, my skin is quite wrinkled. Loving signs of a great life is how I choose to view it! I do not believe I will ever intervene, because I don’t like what happens to people’s faces when they inject and operate and do all the crazy shit they do, to look younger. To me, they only look old with traumatized faces!

I love how confidence looks on others. I have always wanted to emulate this more often. Over the years, I have been able to do it more and more. I cannot believe how much money gets wasted to attempt to look better to please others who truly don’t care. A social crime that is rampant in our culture. Ugh!

We all get to view ourselves through the lens of where we are. I know the direction I choose to look toward, and do more each day to get there. I still love pretty clothes, but have gone through a fairly thorough shift with the shoes. What??? I know, it was an acceptance piece for me, believe it! Not where I am aiming, but so much closer. Life does tell us where to go if we choose to listen. Many will not, and the prices become very high. Acceptance becomes more than skin-deep. It begins to penetrate the heart and soul we inhabit as well. I love that!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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