December 13

LOVE MONTH: DAY 13: “This is what we call love. When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there’s no need at all to understand what’s happening, because everything happens within you.”― Paulo Coelho

When we finally learn the greatest lesson there is to learn, we are here. We are loved. Not by a partner, a family or anyone. But we are loved. We are loved by the person who most understands and accepts us…ME.

When I love myself, I don’t have a huge need for all the rest. I am free of the needy and insecure traits that mark us as immature and spiritually empty. These are the traits we can most readily recognize in those who are living in Ego. They are needy of things, of other people, of being constantly busy and running hither and yon to satisfy that nagging hunger that lives in them. For constant and ongoing satisfaction to fill that empty hole.

When I love myself, I am living in Spirit. There is nothing to separate me from the Universal Power or anything or anyone. It is a state of being Whole and Complete within myself. If you are here with me, I feel that connection and oneness.

When I am alone, I feel the same thing. I no longer need anything from you. I have it all. I am not looking for someone or something to “complete me” to use the current vernacular.

These things do not happen when I am loved from without myself. There is no way for me to be or feel complete in that. It is something I am constantly grasping for and nearly getting, but missing all the same. I will settle for this until I get to the stage where I have come to understand that this is TRULY an inside job.

Then there is no place I am not at home. I fit inside ME and go with completeness into every situation. They will not all feel right for me, since it is not completely comfortable to be in a crowd of empty seekers, grasping at things they cannot quite reach. That feels awful…Buddhists call these folks the Hungry Ghosts, I often call them Spiritual Zombies. Dead inside, because they refuse to clear away the Ego that propels and compels them from one place to the next. Sad and lonely and desperate. We have all felt this. It brought most of us to this place of recovery.

And we somehow choose to believe that NOT drinking and drugging is the point. It is not. It is to find this place of LOVE, where we need nothing and no one to thrive and be completely content and happy…always gonna be an inside job…and the greatest one we will ever have!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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