December 10

LOVE MONTH: DAY 10: “If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”― Mother Teresa

Addicts all talk about the same thing…a feeling of separateness and alone-ness that permeate the time prior to their drinking/using history. This is what Ego does…it separates us by comparing and contrasting our insides with other peoples’ outsides.

Ego tells us we are not enough, not as much as others, different, inadequate, etc. Insecurity and other kinds of BS information begins to tell us we are not “like them” or whatever story begins to develop. We buy into this and live as if we are the outsiders, the alone, the different, the wrong, the bad or whatever story we buy into.

We make it all up! And I know people who are in their 80s and 90s and still living into this erroneous reality. Wow! Ego is powerful! It is the voice of the wrong, the damned, the voice of all that haunts and destroys us.

Humanity runs on Ego today, our culture is all about “looking good” instead of recognizing that we are all good, no matter what BS Ego may tell us.

The truth is this: we are as different as every rain drop, every snow flake, every rose petal. We are meant to be here and BE different! It is only our social environment that tells us we should all look one way or another, be a certain color, have smooth skin for decades, weigh a certain amount, wear the same clothes, etc., etc., etc.

Now, who profits from these ideas? Corporate entities that create and propel these pieces of information at us in dizzying ways and in dizzying numbers. We are bombarded with this crap! And we buy into it! It is an immature Ego that believes and continues to buy into this. The point of these steps is to grow us up and to stop Ego from running our lives and beating us into submission to its demands. Why would we want to be those sheep? It is so immature and sad to believe any of that crap. But it is not about amassing information. It is REALLY about doing the work and letting go of the fear and the BS. It may take 10 or 15 lifetimes, who knows? But years without a drink or drug are not the answer. The answer is in the spirit and learning to sit there instead of sitting in Ego.

Period. And we DO belong to each other. But only when we can join others who are not in that immature stage of Ego and we have left it behind. What a peaceful world THAT will be!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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