November 23

GRATITUDE MONTH: DAY 23: “Whatever you appreciate and give thanks for will increase in your life.”― Sanaya Roman

The laws of attraction that have been written and spoken so frequently about all indicate the same thing. That focusing on our problems makes them too big to handle. We get overwhelmed by the negativity of Ego and feel doomed and depressed or anxiety-ridden. This is very common in addiction. It is not a clinical issue; it is an Ego-issue. As a therapist and specialist in working with addiction, it is the crux of the problem we see in addiction. Focus on self-centered (Ego!) ways of thinking.

A long-time AA guru, Clancy, talks about it being the “disease of perception,” which is precisely the way we can step away from our focus on the minutia of our personal BS and see life from another perspective. What we focus on truly does increase.

So, in that frame of reference, we are able to learn to do it differently. The more I thank the Universe for the blessings of my life, both great and small, the more they manifest. I recognize the good sense of the Universe in providing me with an abundance of the good life. This does not mean that I win the lottery, or that I have young and handsome men dancing in my living room. It means that I have learned to live with what “is” in my life and know that it is here to support and nurture me.

I appreciate everything that IS and know that it is all temporary anyway. Temporary in terms of how I experience it and how I feel about it and how it looks and appears to me. The shift is sometimes in favor of the way I am supposed to learn. For example, I am going to get older (I hope!) and need to embrace and thank the Universe for the breath I get whenever I need one. It sucks to not be able to breathe well. I have had that experience and it makes me grateful for easy breathing. I need to work on being healthy enough that breath flows in and out for me. I thank the Universe daily for my breathing skills.

I am not crazy about aging, but I can do some things that make it a more comfortable process. I keep my weight down, work out and hike and do yoga for more flexibility. Most people stiffen up as they age, to the point where they cannot bend over without injury. No thanks! And I eat very well and take great care of my health, and have let go of my appearing to be 40 or 50. I am not!

And I don’t want to be cranky and whiney about aging. I don’t want to get bitter and nasty about it, nor will I do crazy surgeries and injections and shit like that to “fight” aging. Ugh! Talk about Ego…yikes! And the results are scary looking to me. Anyway, I am grateful because I know that I am a crone. An old woman who has lived a fantastic and fascinating life and cannot wait for more. I have learned amazing things and done amazing things and want more, thank you very much!

But I also have so many things that have increased exponentially in this time of Gratitude. My patience, my acceptance, my happiness (WAY BIG on that one!), my abilities and skills and talents and wisdom….so many things, so many gifts! And the more I say thank you, the more there are…it is kind of scary how that happens, but I love it!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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