November 4

GRATITUDE MONTH: DAY 4: “Being grateful does not mean that everything is necessarily good. It just means that you can accept it as a gift.”― Roy T. Bennett

Life is life. We are being spiritually re-aligned to live with what life presents without reacting like 2-year-old children.

Illness, painful diseases, death, poverty, job loss, loss of family and friends, loss of pets and loved ones, it is ALL part of life. If we focus on these issues, life is particularly sad, lonely, painful and without merit. It is not all there is.

Additionally, being grateful means that we learn to swing the pendulum to the mid-point with seeing how we are blessed in each and every moment. We are given these amazing 12 steps to work through that balancing process.

Life happens to all of us. There is nothing to guard us from it. It is what we came here to do. No matter how “good” we think we are, or how large our bankrolls, we are going to face things that challenge us. That IS the point of life. Not to sit safely (?) in some ivory tower, protected from life. Cannot be done. Even those who proclaim themselves  free from relationships and wall themselves into fortresses of supposed protection are making their lives even more lonely and sad. Howard Hughes is the one who comes to mind here.

Life is life. There is always a gift in the most terrifying and sad experiences. We get to be grateful for what we have OR we can boohoo when it is gone, having never truly appreciated and loved it, no matter what it is. That regret is the most painful way to live!

Most people live in regret of what they did not pay mindful attention and grateful appreciation of. Their youth, their loved ones, a sunny day, a special moment with their child, so many regrets. The antidote is to pay very careful attention all the time, being mindful and grateful.

This goes against the grain for addicts. We are constantly crying for more and bigger and better. A symptom of the kind of culture we embrace in a capitalistic world. Capitalism is the death of spirit, the death of caring, the death of being grateful. It is the constant striving and pushing for more and more, without being satisfied in any way…sound familiar?

It is…the very nature of the constantly whining and crying addict. Oh yeah!

I truly believe Gratitude is the antidote for addiction. You cannot be both. It is not possible. It has to be a viable, active, physically practiced part of life to work, but that is extremely simple. Sad thing is, 99% of addicts just won’t do it. They would rather whine that they only need more of something for life to be okay and happy for them. So sad…

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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