October 5

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 5: “Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.”― Bill Ayers

We somehow believe that we are here to train our children to become what we see for them. We are not. They are here to realize their God-given talents and skills in the world. They are already filled with what they are here to do.

What happens to all of us is that we are crammed into the mold of a social order that is SO dysfunctional and broken that we spend YEARS unlearning the crap that others forced us to learn. Parents, grand-parents, church, schools, and our culture tell us to be this or that, to have this or that career, to get married, to be identified with the sexual mores that work best for them, to drive this kind of car, to make money instead of focusing on something that feeds the spirit we were imbued with when we arrived.

Then, we question why the divorce rate is so high, why addiction is rampant throughout  our culture, why suicide is what it is, why obesity and disease are rampant when we have all we need to decrease them completely.

What if we were all nurtured and allowed to become exactly who the Universal Power sent us here to be? What if we were given permission to do what felt right for us, no matter how it looked to the neighbors? What if we were given the education that suited us, our individual likes and tendencies? What if we decided to live outside the lines of our social imperative? What if we were free to become and live out the life we came here to have?

Well, I would be out of work completely. Having spent a lifetime working in addictions treatment and as a therapist, I can see the root causes of all of the afflictions of our social environment. I see why the crazy and sad and depressed and broken-ness of people exists. And I would love it if we quit fixing the symptoms and came to terms with the REAL causal foundations of the broken-ness. A happy social order does not impose these rigid guidelines and rules on their people. They allow the freedom of existence to be widespread and flourishing. What a great idea!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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