August 28

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 28: “You can have regret from yesterday, fear tomorrow, but peace today by sharing your heart’s deepest feelings. A life spent being fearful of showing your soul is a life not worth living.” ― Shannon Alder

We work this step 8 like warriors, courageous and fearless. I feel that way about all the steps, but Step 8 is one of the most important. Just like Step 6, we are preparing for the working of the step.

I love that we get to do that. Prepare. Make the list, get ready to do the thing that is so scary to so many of us when we first contemplate it.

Because… we must do it well. And we must continue to live into the amends we make. I have sponsored those who continuously apologize for doing the same shit over and over, never getting it that we are here to CHANGE. Not just talking about how we have changed, but living it.

We give a bad name to Recovery when we consistently violate the terms of our amends. It is not about saying “oops” all the time. It IS about making the significant changes that are necessary to walk away from our asinine behaviors.

So, we must be WILLING to stay on the path. Not just say it once and keep going. But to truly change the way we act and think. This is a dedicated process that will take the rest of our lives to achieve. We cannot keep falling back into the mud and pretend we are no longer pigs.

Show your soul. Let go of Ego. Be real and authentic and embrace your ability to grow and recover and heal.

It can happen. It will happen. But we have to be willing to let go of knowing shit and doing the same shit over and over. And we must be willing to let go of all the old ideas that keep us there. There is such power in willingness and the action that must follow.

It is truly a blessing to be able to do these things, to be allowed the grace that will bring us to this place and into the dynamics of what real recovery is all about. Go get some.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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