COURAGE MONTH: DAY 26: “We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.” ― Thomas Moore
I have such good friends, with whom I can unfold myself. It is a beautiful thing, to be sure. I am a very open page in a very open book. I love that! The more I let go of hiding myself, the freer I become. It was a crazy challenge to do this in the first few years, I am so codependent and such a people pleaser. Now I will tell anyone anything if they are engaged.
I create distance only when I find that someone is less than honorable or engaged. That is okay with me. Today I have the filters and the boundaries. I will trust others until they show me they are not to be trusted. Then they don’t get to be on the inside track.
A lot of addicts and others in my life are just not capable of self-honesty. That makes them people I will hold at arms’ length. It is all okay.
Life is a matter of those who can join the dance and those who cannot. It is not about me or them, just about who is and who is not part of my tribe. I don’t really care, either way. Sometimes I have an agenda, and that may create an attachment for someone I think is supposed to be someone else. That is always a great learning experience. I have had a couple of these recently. Shows I am not done here yet, which is good because I am enjoying the process.
I love what this step process brings up for me and in me. I love how life supports, in every way, my growth and development and unfolding into deeper and deeper recovery. There is not a moment of any day where I am not aware and awake of the process. That is pretty cool. I am so devoted to this healing and growing that I am always excited to see what comes next.
Sometimes when it comes, I am not as receptive as at other times. In fact, I can be quite ungracious. But stick it out, nevertheless. It is always interesting, don’t you agree?
I don’t engage much with people whose presence doesn’t go deep. I have to let them find another tribe, because MY tribe is willing to dig in and get REAL!