August 4

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 4: “Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.” ― Maya Angelou

This quote is a great reminder for me. I cannot do anything without some courage. It takes courage to stop patterns of behavior that are taking over our lives, with stories that go on forever. We star in these stories as victims and heroes, but never with real truth.

We make it all up. All of it. Every story that we tell is a myth that we create. Some of the events may take place, but all versions are untrue. Because we can only tell one small part of the story. Our version never takes all sides into account, nor do we see any other roles in the story. Only our victim story. We are always the long-suffering victim of others, and they are the villains, the assholes, the bad guys.

This is not real. When we can dispassionately unravel the story, we can see how we created the whole thing to begin with. We step out our front door, each and every day, with a victim story already going on. Then everyone who interacts with us has a pre-determined role to play. No matter what happens, we have set the stage and hired the characters to play bad guys.

Once in a while, we let them be a good guy, but their role will always turn into a bad guy. There is no other way for it to play out, since we are decidedly the victim.

It takes a great deal of courage for me to let go of this story. To see that others do not want to be part of the story I make up. They are busy in their own story. It is a horrible thing to try and live into or walk away from. No one wins and no relationships can survive this. We get to heal all of this shit in the steps, IF we have the courage to consistently and continuously allow healing to show us the story we are telling.

I want to be courageous. I don’t want to believe my stupid story any longer. I am not a victim. I am really working to get past this stuff and have healthy REAL relationships with others who are willing to step outside their ego-story as well. Isn’t that a lovely idea?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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