July 31

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 31: “Success needs vision to see, passion to transcend, patience to withstand and the character to overcome failures.” ― Amit Ray

Most addicts cannot succeed because they lack the ability to understand and embrace those attributes listed above. They may have a vision, but lack the passion and patience to follow through with what the vision shows them.

It is a great deal of work to get from the point of idea to the point of seeing it fully transformed into a concrete product or service.

When success isn’t sudden and upon them at once, they give up and throw in the towel. Persistent effort, despite setbacks and disappointments are not hallmarks of the addict personality.

We also have a somewhat distorted view of what success truly is. It is not being the center of the Universe, the richest or most financially rewarded person, or even the one with the most accolades and awards. Success hardly ever has that Hollywood glow to it.

Most of the time, it means that we are personally satisfied with our efforts, and that we feel a personal sense of fulfillment for having done something that belongs to us. No matter how much others may factor into the equation, we know we have achieved something that WE deem worthwhile. That takes all of those qualities, and a great deal more.

To feel successful, most of us will have to let go of the idea of Academy Awards kind of recognition or the money that we may believe equates success in this world. We may have to re-define what success means for us.

Is it happiness? Then we have to understand the nature of what creates happiness. None of those things our culture uses as earmarks to success will measure up in that instance. Neither will we be self-satisfied or self-fulfilled if we use those markers.

Being a success is an inner experience that we can only measure for ourselves. It is a good day for us all to look at how successful we believe ourselves to be and what it is that makes it happen in our lives.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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