June 1

HUMILITY MONTH: DAY 1: “I’m sure I am wrong about many things, although I’m not sure exactly which things I’m wrong about. I’m even sure I’m wrong about what I think I’m right about in at least some cases.” ― Brian McLaren

I liked this quote when I gathered them a few days ago. It made me laugh.

If I had known how wrong I was about some of the things I believed as a child, as a young teen, as a young adult, as a 30-year old, etc., I would have made other choices.

But isn’t that the point of life? To learn and relearn and unlearn and learn again those things that we made up our minds about when we were 3 or 4 years old?

Sadly, most of the world we live in today will go to their graves proclaiming their “right to be right” and fighting unto death for the privilege of never learning anything new. There is no information that will break through a made-up mind.

Never questioning their knowledge is a dangerous sign in a lot of people. It shows that fear that we have to get past to stop letting Ego (Screaming Purple Monkeys-SPM) run the show. That will keep us in terrible ignorance for as long as it gets the drivers’ seat.

I have learned well and hopefully fully from people like this. I see their stance and their rigidity. It informs me when I react to something, rather than responding to it. This is the first sign for me. I get defensive and afraid. Then I want to be combative, but am training myself (more every day) to soften and open to the new information.

There have been times when I want to practice open-ness and softness and need to do something in order to accept the information or person, but not let it into my life. There is a difference between acceptance of something that is toxic and letting it into my world. I cannot do it all of the time. I may accept someone’s behavior, but not allow it in my space.

This is a great distinction I am learning to make. Step 6 gives me beautiful guidance on how I believe and how I behave. And where I am wrong, I get to see what is driving my need to hold on to old ideas or behaviors that are no longer appropriate.

This is great stuff. And I love that I can be wrong most of the time and still love my life and my being. No need for fear, no need to defend it in any way. Just the freedom to walk in humanity and with humanity and humility. Woohoo!

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Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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