February 12

HOPE MONTH: DAY 12: “Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed.” ― G.K. Chesterton

The word I would change here is “killed.” I think the idea is a bit too severe. Children want to “slay” dragons. At least I did.

And I remember that the dragons in fairy tales represented real people in my daily life as a child. I did not want to kill them. That was too severe. I wanted to “overcome” them and their power over my life. I have been able to do that.

The monsters have come out of the closet and from under the bed. They are visible and hold no more power. That is because I have done the immense amounts of work required to dispel their hold over my life and my mind. I am amazed at some of the people I know who have gone for extraordinary long times without drugs or drinks and have not done the work. I don’t know how.

Then I get to see what has evolved in their lives and I see the incredibly sad structures they have built to avoid looking into the mirrors of their own souls. The broken-ness and pain of not shifting their fairy tale stories into a new dynamic.

This is what we do here. We learn to re-write and re-live our stories to overcome and slay the dragons, which we made up anyway. They truly do not exist. And we must stop living in the fairy tales of them being the bad guys, dragons, monsters, etc. It just isn’t true. I had a deeply significant spiritual revelation around Hitler when I was newly recovering. And I got it that we can demonize or create gurus, but it is only another story. There is a great deal of healing we must do to stop the judgment that is killing US, not them.

Until we shift our Ego stories into a new paradigm, we are going to suffer from anger, rage, pain and all the other benefits (?) of the Ego. Thinking we have all the answers and know what should be going on is the thing that was killing us when we got here. NOT DRUGS, NOT ALCOHOL. Our Egos MUST be smashed, or we will live miserable lives. That is the purpose of every single step we ever take. To shift our old ideas into clearer concepts of compassion, love, acceptance and a viable way of living.

Fairy tales may teach us of possibility and bring hope. But left there, it does nothing to produce a better person living a better life. That means we move the fuck on…and heal what is truly broken…our thinking.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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