December 6

LOVE MONTH: DAY 6: “Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.” ― Bertrand Russell

I like this one. I do not remember ever having a “safe” relationship that was worth a damn. It is not possible. They are all risky.

We must step outside our comfort zone for anything of value. We must always push the limits we impose on ourselves so that we can step away from the safety of the known.

I want to have new adventures every day. The familiar, the safe, the known….yawn!!! When I do something I have never done before, taste a new food,  see a new sight, explore a new experience…that is when I am truly living.

Love is like that. Life is like that. If I settle for someone who feels “safe,” then I know me. I will be bored in about 5 minutes. I need that stimulating sense of discovering a new person who just might challenge and dare me to live outside the realm of safety. I must have a sense of risk and daring myself to go where I have not gone before.

To keep myself from harm means that I am not risking “feeling” anything uncomfortable…again…yawn!

I want to dive deeply into the unknown and the emotions I have around life and love and seeing the world through new eyes and hearing things through new ears.

How many times have I been challenged by a new person, whether they were a co-worker, a new sponsee, a new sponsor, friend or whatever? Every time I let someone into my life, there is always a possibility of learning and growing. There is always a possibility of love or disconnection or finding out that I am locked into self.

So, I always look for the openings and the opportunities to find a new friend or a new love or to just let go of something that is holding me back from the next connection. I love that challenge. I love that opportunity. I love that possibility.

Life has informed me so well about how people are here to teach me. It is not always comfortable, but it is never wasted. I want to always step into the adventure 100% and get all there is to get and give all there is in me to give…woohoo!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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