August 24

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 24: “You will have to make up for the smallness of your size by your courage and selfless devotion to duty, for it is not life that matters, but the courage, fortitude and determination you bring to it.” ― Muhammad Ali Jinnah

I really like this one! Life doesn’t matter all that much, really. We are not here to impress anyone, because that doesn’t have any lasting spiritual value. Yet, for some reason, ego tells us that this is the only purpose of life.

Interesting, isn’t it? No one ever really remembers anything about those who are big deals. The folks who are held in highest esteem in history are those who dare to be kind, to be humane, who dare to be those things when others are not. Courage is to be the most highly awarded principle we can have. The courage to love and to heal and to go against those who demand war and fighting to get what they want.

What if we didn’t play by those rules we are taught anymore? What if we just walk away from the drama and the crazy and let others do what they want and leave them the hell alone? What if we refuse to show up for the showdowns and the fights and the wars and the selfish, greedy taking of everything we can grab?

Isn’t that a far better way to be doing this thing than what we are doing? We are unhappy and dissatisfied, no matter how much we eat, no matter how much we spend, no matter how much we work and how much we get. What if we just share what we have with others and let the rest go?

We are not small in size on the inside, only on the outside where shallow people look. The real shit is in the hearts and souls of all of us. Courage isn’t something you can watch on television or see on the nightly news. It is the mother who is so tired and gets up at 3:00 am to feed her crying baby, and yet again at 5:00 am to feed her other children. It is the person who is daring enough to save an injured animal that no one else even sees. It is the person who is brave enough to stand up for others when they are being downtrodden or bullied by someone else and the world pretends not to notice. It is the person who continues to dream of success even when his head tells him it is useless. It is that newcomer who comes into the rooms…one more time, even though he is not sure he can make this thing work.

We are surrounded by people who are starting life over, against the greatest odds there are, doing the impossible when no one believes in them, working to make a life when all they have is grit and bare hands. We see them and forget to honor them all the time.

Why would we honor someone who can play a sport and reward them with millions of dollars instead of a man who is struggling every day to feed his children and make a home for them to live inside? Who, really is the hero here? Our values are sometimes very upsetting to me. Our culture believes that a model who has physical beauty is more valuable than a baby with Down’s syndrome and their precious smile when they watch a cartoon and see it for the first time, which is how it happens every time for them.

I want to have the courage to love the unlovable, to hold the ones that no one will touch, to be the kindness that someone needs to go out and do it one more day. That is what I believe matters here. The rest is all just ego!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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