July 14

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 14: “The future you shall know when it has come; before then, forget it.” – Aeschylus

Isn’t that simple? And yet, throughout centuries, there have been those who read palms, tea leaves and the skies for signs of what is to come. Horoscopes and predictions abound throughout history.

It is not a function of our current culture to predict the future, but a long-standing “need” we have to know what is coming.

Sadly, there is no way to know. Our “need” is just another form of how we try to control outcomes to remain “safe” in the world around us. To be sure that life and its surprises do not catch us unaware. I have always talked about needing to know what kind of shoes to put on in the morning, so I am prepared for whatever may come in my day. I don’t want to be wearing cute (but uncomfortable) high heels when I need to stop and do some grocery shopping or have a breakdown   with my car that necessitates walking.

So, in order to “Be Prepared!” like the Girl Scout I once was, I hedge my bets by always having a pair of tennies and a pair of flip flops in my car. Shoe insurance, if you will.

This does not insure that nothing will happen, but more so that I am prepared for what may happen. This is a small example, but think about the money we spend on health, life, home and auto insurance that we have never used. Admittedly, it can be a tremendous boon when we do need it, but that industry is making money based on our fears of the future.

Sometimes I wonder what if we just set aside that money and let it be there for that event we fear? What if we invested in our health to the extent that there would be a great deal less need for insurance to pay for medical costs that are avoidable with good dietary and exercise choices? Not all of them are, of course, but we are dependent on these things to the extent that they can rule our lives.

I guess I am looking for a simpler way of life. I am not sure that is possible, but I see that what we do now is not effective for everyone. I am not sure what is. I just observe and ask questions. Some of the things we “accept” as being the “way it is” don’t make sense to me.

They are not the way of the natural world, which makes a great deal more sense than what people have created to control the natural world. Aren’t we interesting? I think so!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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