June 10


HUMILITY MONTH: DAY 10: “Humility is a passive acceptance of the process of life; love is an active participation in that process.” ― Théun Mares

This sounds so simple, and yet is the core of every problem we will ever come across. What we do not accept, we cannot lovingly participate in.

Getting to the acceptance of the process of life is what our journey is all about. I do not know anyone who has not banged their fist and butted their head against the process. We don’t want change, unless we are in control of how that comes down.

We don’t accept much about life, we rant and rail and scream and fight it all. This is our human nature. When we can peacefully submit to life, a continuous state of surrender, we will be humble all the time. For me, a series of surrenders, which I am always bloody and beat up to receive, has taken place in this journey. I may passively accept some things, like aging (as an idea only!) The reality of how it looks and what happens there is a whole other story! I get surrendered, over and over again. To life, to the changes I cannot control. To the Will of that Supreme Creator and Universal Power.

I am like a tiny dog who has come across a gigantic bone. I ain’t letting go. And it might kill me, but, dammit…I am gonna get that bone and keep it! Hahaha!

I would love to learn to passively accept life. It gets better over time. We get to understand the nature of life and how much easier it is to accept what we cannot change (which is everything!) and to love our part in that life.

I really love this quote. It may have to become a part of my regular and daily meditations. I get to do this every day. Find words I wish I had written and use them to write some things of my own. But this quote strikes deeply into the heart of what I believe is every addicts’ problem. That true incorporation of our hearts and souls that WE are not in charge of anything. And that WE are here to passively accept it all. What a great summation of 32 years of recovery this is for me today! I like it!


I would be remiss not to acknowledge my deep honor to the 83rd anniversary of the thing that we all hold dear…the advent and beginning date of Alcoholics Anonymous. No matter what 12 Step program we may belong to, this is the one that started it all. I feel humbled when I realize that only in THIS life, and at THIS time, has my recovery been possible. What a miraculous gift we all received on that day in 1935 when Dr. Bob got sober too and it all became our journey.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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