May 27

INTEGRITY MONTH: DAY 27: “The willingness to reach inside every part of yourself opens the door to total understanding. You place your entire identity on the line, not just an isolated part. This may sound daunting, but actually it’s the most natural way to approach any situation. When you hold some part of yourself in reserve you deny it exposure to life; you repress its energy and keep it from understanding what it needs to know.” ― Deepak Chopra

Light is the healing energy we all most understand. What is terrifying in the dark disappears when we shine the light on it. Nightmares seldom continue when the sun comes up.

When we hold on to secrets or any aspects of ourselves, especially in Step 5, we are doomed to never heal these parts of us. My experience is that we are not even aware for many years of how deeply these dysfunctions and old ideas have gone into our psyche.

Therefore, we do not understand how much a part of us they have become, how ingrained our old ideas and behaviors are.

We are always looking at “other” … those people and situations around us that we believe are the causal factors in our pain and dysfunction. They are not the cause, nor the solution. We are reacting to life in all the things we do, believe, say, feel and think. It is THESE things that must change for us to become happy, joyous and free.

We will always have a reaction to the world around us. We have been programmed by our lives and need to be reprogrammed. These stories must be reframed, over and over again, before we are aware of how we react to them.

Becoming free means we have to expose ALL the nightmares in our monkey brains to the light of day. As we do this, over and over, they release their power and control over our lives. It is NOT about other people and how they affect us. It is all about what we believe about that and how we react to it. When we do this work, we get to learn to respond rather than react. This is what becoming a responsible grownup is all about. And that is total freedom from the insanity of where we have been and what we have done and how we feel about EVERYTHING.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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