February 15

HOPE MONTH: DAY 15: “Hope is a force of nature. Don’t let anyone tell you different.” ― Jim Butcher

We all know that hope is a powerful force. It goads us to do things that are seemingly impossible, and we can achieve great things with this force.

It is the voice that we call inspiration, whispering to us that maybe, just maybe, we can succeed and do what we dream of doing.

It impels us to get out of bed in the morning, no matter how tired we may be, and no matter how discouraged we have become the night before. There is a drive, a determination, that keeps us going. It is so powerful.

Against all the odds, we kept drinking and drugging, believing with our entire lives, that this time it would be different. If that ain’t hope, I don’t know what is.

But, that is hope with insanity, the insanity of chronic, ongoing and active addiction. Yet, we still maintained hope that it would feel like it felt once upon a time; that it would work, just one more time.

We get to this recovery thing, and hope comes in a new form. It comes in the form of a promise made, usually by another recovering addict, that we can do this thing.

They tell us that they have been restored to sanity. That they have stayed away from drugs and alcohol, applied these spiritual principles in their daily lives over the course of time, and achieved their dreams. Some of those dreams range from getting their families back, creating new families, walking away from their families, getting jobs, getting a new car, getting a new home, over and over again.

These stories inspire and inform us about how this works. When we are new, it is imperative that we receive this type of hope from the stories.

Many recovering people spend long periods of time talking about old behaviors and old ideas. This is not instilling any kind of hope in new members. They need to know why they are sitting in a meeting without a drink or drug.

We don’t need to share those stories of our deeds and misdeeds loaded or drunk. That is not the message of recovery. What IS the message of recovery is what has happened as you apply these spiritual principles in your lives. What does bring hope to the new members is the idea that you felt as ashamed, angry, dead inside, and racked with grief and pain as they do.

And that THEN you began to recover, following this formula, day in and day out. And the miracles that came to pass when you did this. What the steps brought you. What the principles brought to your life. How prayer and meditation helped you learn to sit still for a minute before reacting to the same old shit that keeps coming into life, whether we are recovering or not.

That we have what we need to live as sane members of the world around us, instead of fighting it all the time, or running from it all the time. That inspires and brings hope to all of us; and it IS a force of nature.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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