January 22

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 22: “The Buddha said that suffering was caused by desire, we’d learned, and that the cessation of desire meant the cessation of suffering. When you stopped wishing things wouldn’t fall apart, you’d stop suffering when they did.” – John Green

My experience has taught me that life, in all her splendor and glory, loves to show off. She brings us hummingbirds, sunsets, rainbows, beautiful flowers in so many, many colors and varieties, oceans, dogs, cats, people, and so much more!

And then, because balance is the rule of the Universe, we have hurricanes, tornadoes, blizzards, heat waves, earthquakes and volcanoes as well. The flux of all of Nature, and life itself, is constant change, constant building and falling apart.

What is troublesome for us humans, even those without addiction (ever meet one? I haven’t), is that we want to “control and enjoy” life. All the time. And that is going straight up against all of life. Since the beginning of time, our greatest “tragedies” are the destruction of manmade objects because Nature (life) is going on.

We rant and rail, build it bigger and stronger next time, and swear that we shall conquer the Universe and all its power. Never going to happen. Never.

And that does not even begin to deal with the phenomena of human personalities and the sheer numbers of people who populate the spaces where we want to do it all. So, we destroy eco-systems and important animal populations, pollute the crap out of the beautiful creation we certainly do not understand or work to embrace, and that makes all of it worse.

Acceptance means that I am embracing the energy of this vast and amazing marble we live on. Then, I can work to get my needs met as a human by living in harmony and gratitude for every moment and blessing I receive. Recovery is only the tip of this iceberg for me.

I have found that the more I focus on that for which I am grateful, the more acceptance I have in the things that pop up to surprise me. This is pretty cool. It defies ego and those demands that are never satisfied within my ego world.

Blessings are so abundant! I have amazing health…I love that! I have amazing energy…I love that! I have a beautiful blue sky outside today. There were a few weeks when I couldn’t see it, and I was devastated by what was happening. It felt big and raw and scary. I am grateful that I have learned to sit with those things and ask for what the gifts are that I can open.

Some days I have health issues that crop up. Boy! Do I get REALLY grateful when I can be healthy again! I have learned to sit without judgment about whether these things are good or bad, right or wrong.

And I do my best to sit still and NOT try to fix things that appear to be broken. If I can just honor what is happening within me, my heart is still, and I am peaceful. A great time in my life is TODAY, right this minute! I am blessed beyond imagining. And my gratitude for life, all of life, is beyond my wildest dreams. This is SUCH good shit! Way better than any drink I ever had or any drug I ever met. YAY!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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