December 20

LOVE MONTH: DAY 20: “Passion makes the world go around. Love just makes it a safer place.” — Ice‑T

This quote is fun, to me. We are all passionate about something. Even if that passion is for getting high and avoiding life and all its responsibilities.

That is still passion. Passion for another person is a great motivator. People do their best in their efforts to please and impress another person. They will be kinder and gentler, lose weight or work out, all kinds of things that nothing else will motivate them to do. There is a whole side of life that becomes more exciting when we are passionate with another person.

Love is a different story. If we truly loved ourselves and others, we could not do the crazy things we do. Fear is the motivator of all the horror in the world. Fear drives ALL the character defects and tells us that we are not enough, they are not enough, blah, blah, blah. In my parlance, this is all monkey shit!

While I love the idea of the world being a “safer” place, I am not sure that is the intention of the Creative Force in this Universe. Safety is a construct of our imagination.

We want to keep ourselves and those we love “safe.” What makes that interesting is the violent things people do for “safety.” And that is Universal. If my safety depends on fighting you off, that isn’t safety, it is vigilantism. (I thought I just made up that word, but it didn’t make a red line underneath it, so it IS a real word.)

Safety through force and fighting doesn’t feel like safety to me. Nor does it equate in any way with love. So, I think the best thing for me to do is learn to ACCEPT what is going on in the world and stop fighting THAT.

Fighting anything is violence. Whether the fight is with a sibling, a family member, a boss or co-worker, my weight, my purported “enemy,” which has changed about 10 times in my lifetime, or whomever or whatever I am fighting. That violence is not in any way creating safety in me or in the world around me. When I can really understand this, I will stop doing it.

My resistance is what causes all of my pain. If I resist you and your ideas, I am fighting with you. If I am resisting life, as I have often done, I am not enjoying life; and I find things to be painful. Acceptance of you, of life, of myself, of the Universe, is the only way for me to be at peace and feel “safe.” It is a mental idea, not a reality.

Life is good. There is plenty for me to love, when I focus on that. I have great passion for healing and life and whatever comes into my experience. I cannot wait to see what is next. And next, and after that. It is all a blessing and here for me to learn from and about. The more I do and see and discover, the more I want. This is good stuff! We are all passionate about something. What are you passionate about today?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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