October 21

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 21: “You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself…the height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. …And this law is the expression of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others.” ― Leonardo da Vinci

We respect those who have discipline with themselves. As long as that discipline does not become an addiction, it is to be respected.

Since we know how much it takes for us to do what is best for us in life, it is also important that we know how to balance these things.

Fresh air, exercise, good nutrition and quiet time is all great for all of us. In good balance, we should strive to be healthy. When we are obsessed with exercise and our body image, that is another addiction that takes us away from our emotional and mental states of wellbeing.

We cannot spend all our time in meetings. While we should establish a good pattern of meeting attendance early in recovery, meetings are NOT the source of recovery. They are the source of fellowship and relationship with other recovering members. Recovery is a totally separate thing. We get that, one on one, with a sponsor; working the 12 steps. What we get in meetings is an exchange of how that all works.

While we can work to support our lives, and take care of our responsibilities, we cannot spend all our time at work either. This is an addiction as well. A big one! So many addicts will get caught in the work addiction, because our culture looks well upon those who work hard. Since we are a capitalist social environment, this is the big lie most of us have bought into.

There is no spiritual connection where money is concerned. When we place ANYTHING before our recovery, it will destroy our chances for spiritual experience.

Discipline means that we see the balance and aspire to it. We may even achieve it quite a bit of the time. That is amazing! Then we will tip the scales one way or the other, because we are addicts. Always, no matter how long we stay away from drugs and alcohol. We are never free from this thing. But we continue to strive for the balance.

And when we get it, it feels amazing! I love the work, I love the play, I love the balance and the imbalance as well. Life is good! And, even if I ever got it, I am not looking for “dominion over others.” Just a bit of freedom from the crazy that addiction brings into my world. And so, it is…

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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