COURAGE MONTH: DAY 21: “If I am to be fallen into love, I will. And if as a result I will appear to be stupid, disillusioned, and of poor judgment, I will. And I would be damned if I cared what other people think. For I would rather be thought of as all of these things, than not love. If in loving, I become the naked woman on the horse, I will ride that horse with my head held high. This is my spirit. I am unbreakable.” ― C. JoyBell C.
What a wonderful quote! I love this! And I want to always live into the challenges it gives me…to be courageous and integral in my life, without bending to the will of others.
This is a great way to live and love, as I see it. I remember the judgments, both mine and those of others, when I first got involved with my husband. Oh, my goodness! He was fresh out of a recovery home, and moved right in with me. As I say when I talk about it, “I brought him home and kept him.” It was the happiest moment I can remember. And there was SO much drama from others.
I would not change that for the world! I was able to walk away from my own judgment, with the wise counsel of my sponsor and into the biggest and best adventure of my life.
I don’t know who made up the “rules” about how relationships are supposed to be done in this thing, but they are SO wrong and SO damaging to those who are doing what feels right for them.
I will be eternally grateful for those who dare to break the mold and go out and do what feels like love for them. They give us all permission to be true to what is in our hearts. Even if it is something that doesn’t last for very long, love is always worth the risk of appearing silly and ridiculous.
Trust me, my last relationship was quite silly and ridiculous. But I had some really good times in that silly thing, and would never take it back.
I have had some wonderful love relationships in my life. I regret nothing, except those times when I may have hurt others. We all have our expectations and demands in relationships; and these can be damaging to ourselves and others.
I am not a pro at any of this, but I sure do love the practice! And love is wonderful fun. Today I am in a solo relationship with my life and the world around me. Without having a particular partner to lavish my affections upon, I do this with Nature, my life, and everyone I encounter. Love is spectacular and I want to always stay unbreakable!
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